You’re looking for some inertia because for two friends to become intimate you’ll need some momentum. Whether it’s for a rational solution to a problem or an emotional impulse heading towards a train wreck – crash or crash through as they say!
My first word of advice is “get drunk”. Ok, sorry to all the tea-tottlers out there but come on … Dutch courage as they say. I wonder what the Dutch think about that? Don’t the Germans drink the most alcohol per capita? Or is it Russians … anyway … alcohol and drugs will get you a bit wobbly on your tracks but depending on the moral frameworks (see Whois fair game?) it might be enough.
The real risk here is that if things go too slow then someone in the Girlfriend bin will drop back to the Friend bin (see Go / No-Go for launch). You have this real risk of becoming … as my geeky friend Dr Mark calls it … “two trains in the night”. You sit there looking across at each other, waving and saying hi, going for day-dates, picnics … BARF!
So how slow is too slow? It’s not rocket science …
Theory 18: Two Trains in the night if “it” is not on after six dates/weeks.
Ouch!
Now, of course, it’s possible to go too fast. Trip over and woops … your man tackle fell inside them. Oh, sorry. A train-wreck! Of course this type of behaviour is often associated with Bunny-Boilers (see Go / No-Go for launch) or Psychos (see The "Vista" ages) but you know what to do with them.
Anyway, so how fast is too fast? Again, it’s simple …
Theory 19: Train Wreck if you do “it” within two dates/weeks.
So basically, if you wait more than 2 dates/weeks but before 6, it’s “lurv”! And to make things really easy for you, here is nice pretty graph …
Two Trains in the night or Train Wreck?
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